Is It Too Much To Ask For Men Not To Be Gay?
Men used to want a legacy that required the love of a strong woman willing to stand by them through life’s ups and downs.
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Is It Too Much To Ask For Men Not To Be Gay?
I’m terminally online. It’s partly because that’s the world we live in and partly because it’s a prerequisite for my job. So, unfortunately, I’ve come across the viral Zoomer men (boys) who profess the new ideology capturing young male attention-seekers: looksmaxxing.
If you haven’t watched it yet, I am referring to the Michael Knowles interview with streamer Clavicular, who claimed that JD Vance is subhuman due to his weight. He also said that while Gavin Newsom doesn’t align with his political views at all, he will be voting for him in the 2028 presidential election strictly because he has a pretty face.
The two talked about a lot more than this, but overall their exchange about looksmaxxing (which is an inherently gay term) caught my attention. It’s this idea that the only thing of substance one should care about is whether or not you are physically attractive. It doesn’t matter if you are anti-human or support policies that will ruin society as long as your jaw line can cut glass.
This actually isn’t a new worldview. Simple-minded followers tend to look towards the prettiest people in any group and demand they lead. In some ways, these boys are reverting to a mindset that has served humans for centuries. However, as my daughters get older and begin to look for men who will lead them in marriage and life, I can’t help but worry that the only men who are out there are going to be closeted gay “looksmaxxers” and openly gay men.
I am a Millennial, and it has always felt like I married the last of the strong men of my generation. I used to joke that finding him was like catching the final chopper out of Vietnam. Still, every time we brought another daughter into this world, I began to fear for what they would find when they got older. When the girls were babies, our society was still heavily in the cycle of openly demonizing straight men.
Then, thankfully, we started asking: “Where did all the strong men go?”
And seemingly out of nowhere, they began making their way to the front of the conversation. A wave of relief came over me. I’m not raising passive women. They come from a long line of matriarchs who need strong men to help lead them. It’s these relationships that are the most successful in that they can weather the storms that come their way.
Every time I look at polling highlighting the political divide between young men and women, I secretly breathe a sigh of relief. Men are increasingly recapturing their masculinity and promoting ideas that seem to be safe spaces for our girls.
My husband and I aren’t raising another generation of girl boss fem-bots who openly profess to killing their unborn children just to be able to work a soulless corporate job. So when I see a crop of young men coming of age at a similar time to my girls, who, on paper, seem to share the same worldview as us, I get excited that they’ll have plenty of men to choose from when it’s time for them to look for husbands.
But with every pendulum swing, the corrective course never seems to go back to even. It’s almost always farther off course than the swing before it. Now, instead of men realizing that being in the gym positively affects their ability to lead, they are using this ideology to focus on the most vapid part of their lives. A good man doesn’t go into the gym trying to looksmaxx or whatever they want to call it. They go to become strong enough to protect their family. The goal is to have the strength to save your family from a burning building, not “mog” the firemen as they do your job.
There’s strength in beauty for sure, but there has to be something behind the eyes that shows a woman you are going to protect and care for her heart. Right now, these looksmaxxers are giving off an inherently gay male vibe that they hate women. While they profess to be straight men, they act like a catty, scorned woman in a ‘90s teen movie who managed to go through a massive glow-up and, in turn, wreak havoc on the popular kids for being mean to them.
Men used to want a legacy that required the love of a strong woman willing to stand by them through life’s ups and downs. They wanted someone who would urge them to be better and stronger than they were, and in return, they would conquer cities and build statues to profess their love.
These are the types of men I’ve taught my daughters to look for in a husband. As they get older, I am beginning to wonder again if I am setting them up for a life of loneliness. Half of the men in their generation are too afraid to even ask them to prom, and the other half are busy staring at themselves in the mirror doing facial exercises.
Initially, I wanted to tell you all about our beautiful Christmas, but this whole situation is weighing heavily on my mind right now. All of my girls have told me they want to get married and have children. What am I supposed to say to them? “Sorry, honey, there’s always the nunnery?”
WHAT I SAW THIS WEEK:
If you missed my Saturday newsletter this week because you were enjoying your Christmas weekend, I encourage you to check it out. I talked all about how thankful I am to have my sisters and the joy they bring to my life. And don’t worry, I didn’t mention looksmaxxing once. You can check that out here: I Would Have Clawed Her Face Off.
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