Man Whores Out His Pious Wife For Clout
My girls will grow up to understand that a good man will shelter you.
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Man Whores Out His Pious Wife For Clout
Before I get into what I want to talk about today, it is very important that I first tell you that I believe there is redemption through Christ waiting for all of us. We all fall short of sanctification, and through His mercy and sacrifice, we have the opportunity to come back from our sin.
That said, sometimes your testimony should be saved for small-group discussions rather than posted online. A husband is going viral right now for essentially slut shaming his wife on the internet under the veil of professing her radical transformation from promiscuity to biblical womanhood.
Right off the bat, as I read his post, I couldn’t help but think how insane it is that her husband is airing her past on the internet for the world to see. I made a mental note to somehow explain to my girls that they should be looking for men who will protect them, not use them for clicks or online clout.
“My wife was formerly promiscuous. I was a virgin,” he said. “She was then radically born-again. Committed to church, evangelized constantly, Puritan books in her bedroom, prayer journals, grief over past sexual sin, etc.”
The post goes on and on about how she regrets the sexual sins of her past and how she’s worked to be the best mother and wife. The reaction to him telling this story is exactly what you’d imagine. His comment section is full of men asking why he would essentially call his wife a whore on the internet, and women being disgusted by his words.
While talking about this with one of my friends, she mentioned that this woman might have been an OnlyFans prostitute, which would make a lot of sense considering her husband talked about her having multiple partners. So I started doing a bit of digging. Her husband mentioned that she had previously professed her “testimony” in public. I figured there would be a record of it somewhere online. After finding it and reading the entire thing, I am even more disgusted by the husband’s decision to talk about her past this way.
The way he wrote about her made it seem like she had wild college years. She went clubbing and hooked up with random men every night. That was the picture he painted for the audience, but the truth was actually quite heartbreaking.
Yes, she admitted to being an OnlyFans-type cam girl for about 4 months of her life when she was around 18 years old. However, she had been systematically groomed and raped since she was at least 16, but I think this actually started around age 15. Older men would lure her in with drugs and then sexually use and abuse her.
Her parents divorced when she was only 3. She was exposed to pornography at a very young age and then by 15 was sneaking out of the house to go to raves out in the desert, where she met older men who would give her drugs and alcohol.
“At a very young age, I was exposed to lots of sexual immorality such as pornography and crude, sexual talk. This soon led me to get enslaved in the sin of indulging in pornography as young as 11 or 12 yrs old and this continued for many years,” she said.
“At 15 years old I became VERY rebellious. I was promiscuous, jumping from relationship to relationship, smoking, sneaking out at night, lying to my mother where I was going, drinking, and partying,” she wrote.
While she, of course, made the decision to follow that path, her parents were nowhere to be found. Why are they letting their teenage daughter sneak out of the house? The first time that happened would be the last time.
A lot of parents with wild children will claim that some kids are just born unmanageable. “I did everything right, and they strayed on their own.” This isn’t the truth. It’s just something they tell themselves to soothe their shame. We have a duty to protect our children physically and spiritually. This clearly wasn’t happening for her, and it began with their decision to get divorced.
Divorce is the ultimate killer, destroying nuclear families under the guise that children will be happier if the parents are happy. But in reality, all children of divorce walk away with deep-rooted scars, and the worst cases turn out like this girl.
This wasn’t some story about a wild teen, but rather a hurt little girl desperately searching for a family after her parents broke it into pieces. They didn’t provide one at home, so she turned to the world. She found sin and wore it as a shield, but it was poisoned. She was dying from the inside out long before she almost overdosed at age 18.
Now she’s finally found God, a husband, and children. The redemption and family she has been looking for all of her life is now hers. But she can never move on from this because her husband uses it as part of his so-called ministry. He tells the world his wife used to be a whore, but never once mentions that in reality, she was left unprotected by her parents and used by evil men who wanted to abuse her until there was nothing left. She will always be the (former) prostitute.
And I understand that some will read his post claiming that the hate he is receiving is unwarranted. “He’s showing God’s forgiveness!” But I would like to know: if the wife was so willing to have her “testimony” shared in public, why did she try so hard to scrub the details from public view that I had to use a special website to fix the broken link just to read about her life?
My girls will grow up to understand that a good man will shelter you. They will pray for your protection, provide a life that uplifts your soul, and give you a home where you can calmly raise your children. He won’t use you like this. He won’t humiliate you in front of the world for his benefit. Instead, he will fight for your honor and get justice for those who wish to besmirch your character. This is what real men who love their wives do for them.
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